My most recent insight into funeral dress etiquette was a few years ago when I attended the funeral of a close friend of the family. This man loved life, and I mean fast cars, gorgeous women, beautiful houses etc.
Knowing his time was imminent, he had stated his funeral was to be a reflection of the life he had lead and indeed it was - it was a fashion parade! I have never seen so many pairs of Louboutins and Chanel sunglasses in such a small area; the rules of normal funeral dress etiquette had certainly been bent on this occasion!
It made me think about my own funeral and, morbid it might be, I decided to plan it. My husband was horrified and my mother even more so. But I did not want to think of my funeral as a morbid occasion with hymns and readings that meant nothing to me. I would like it to be a reflection of my passions in life - so elegant & stylish it must be!
When attending a funeral if you are in any doubt as to the funeral dress code etiquette then it is fine to ask. If you do not feel comfortable asking then funeral service etiquette states to play it safe and stick to modest outfits below the knee and from the neck up, and preferably a dress or suit.
Black is not necessarily required any more, as long as it is not a bright colour and it is smart, you can choose something else.
Try and gage the tone of the funeral as much as you can and if the deceased specified beforehand that it was not to be a sombre affair then you should honour their wishes.
Hats and gloves can also be worn and can make an outfit elegant and above all respectful.
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