Man to Woman or Woman to Man? Does it really matter?
Introduction Etiquette is not just about correctly introducing someone according to sex and gender. It is also about introducing people to one another with similar interests.
It is one of the greatest things you can do to earn people’s respect and trust at social gatherings. It gives you a perfect opportunity to create a great impression on the people you have just met.
Why does it have such a positive impact?
It shows you have taken an interest in what people have said and made an effort to make their evening more enjoyable by introducing them to someone with similar interests.
Basic Introduction Etiquette rules
So in practice this means that younger people, boys and men are introduced with their names stated second e.g. “Mrs Jones, I would like to introduce you to my nephew, Bill Dupont.”
Advanced Introduction Etiquette rules
Forgotten someone’s name?
Don’t worry – it happens to me on occasions. The worst thing to do is take a stab in the dark and call them the wrong name. Be honest and say “I am so sorry I seem to have forgotten your name, could you please tell me again?”.
Being courteous and polite normally diffuses the situation and then quickly move on, don’t make a big deal out of it.
A really good tip for remembering names is when you are introduced to someone, repeat their name when talking to them a few times, it seems to imprint it a bit more in your memory.
Another tip I learnt was to remember something about them e.g. Mike with the big nose, or Jill with the bright scarf. But be careful not to say it out loud!
You could also ask for their business card but be careful as you may be seen as a networker. Part of the art of conversation is showing that you have listened well; remembering people's names is an indication of your listening skills.
What if someone gets your name wrong?
If someone is getting your name wrong it is good introduction etiquette to correct them immediately to save them much more embarrassment at a later date. If they forget your name, help them out, they will be very grateful, and make them feel at ease.
Once you have initiated your introductions you will then need to call upon your Conversation Etiquette to continue your raport!
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